A MINISTER OR A HUSBAND?
It’s no news anymore that many who turned Men of God lost their families in the process. Others go on to cite biblical passages and they will say, “It was written, that he who cannot forsake his family for my names sake, cannot be my disciple.” I usually laugh off such nonsense when I bring God into the picture. You see, before God is God, he is father, a family being. That is why Jesus responded to his disciples request to teach them to pray by giving them a clear picture of who God really is. “OUR FATHER WHO ART IN HEAVEN…” and on another occasion, many occasions actually, Jesus could usually refer to God as the FATHER. I hope you remember his last statement on the cross just before he gave up his ghost. Father, into thy hands, I commit my spirit. So God is actually a Father before he is GOD.
But then, where do the so called men of God get it wrong? Here is the ideal thing;
1. A married minister has to know that before he is a minister, he is a husband, and a father or a parent (if he has children). It is wrong to claim that you are busy doing God’s work while neglecting the needs of your family in the process. Your wife is human being with feelings. She needs attention and companion. Don’t let her seek these elsewhere. Don’t lead her into temptations. Be there for her, as a husband in the first place.
2. Many ministers/pastors and prophets of the modern day have become so holy than God himself. They have classified and grouped bedroom-under the sheets stuffs into godly and none godly. NO! A big no. you really can’t think that this style is sinful than the other with your wife. The fact is, there is nothing sinful that a married couple can do. So go on and explore sex styles with your wife as a husband.
3. Do not take your professed holiness into the bedroom. I have heard of people praying for sex just before they do it. I really can’t tell anything about it, but I seriously wonder what sort of a prayer that tends to be. Remember, in the bedroom you are a husband and not prophet. Don’t bring verses in the bedroom. Bring love and husband and wife issues.
4. Appreciate each other. Do some dirty talks under the sheets. Let your wife say, Wow, my husband is just so amazing he is hot etc. Don’t make her say words like, my prophet is great to her, you are a husband, and not a prophet. So be the husband.
Remember, being a preacher or miracle worker does not replace the physical needs of your spouse. So be wise.